Hello! i have been nomad for only 7 months and im finding a repetitive pattern I wanted to share here in the hopes of getting advice.I have this feeling that people want to control me. I have been staying with friends in different countries but when i tell then im leaving or getting my own place they start manipulating me to stay. All of them are good friends , they work 9-5 jobs and i can tell they are pretty frustrated with their lives , and i love them. but the more free I am... the more i am becoming a target for the projection of peoples frustrations. i dont know if this is also just because i more aware in general, but i wanted to ask if anyone experiences this aswell... and what advice they had. is this some kind of price to pay for being - "free soul" or whatever that means.??

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Hello! i have been nomad for only 7 months and im finding a repetitive pattern I wanted to share here in the hopes of getting advice.I have this feeling that people want to control me. I have been staying with friends in different countries but when i tell then im leaving or getting my own place they start manipulating me to stay. All of them are good friends , they work 9-5 jobs and i can tell they are pretty frustrated with their lives , and i love them. but the more free I am... the more i am becoming a target for the projection of peoples frustrations.  i dont know if this is also just because i more aware in general, but i wanted to ask if anyone experiences this aswell... and what advice they had. is this some kind of price to pay for being - "free soul" or whatever that means.??

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You are just lucky! You have great friends, they offer you kindly a place to stay and then love you so much that they even want you to stay! So you can be very grateful for their hospitality and for their love and with this gratitude in your heart, continue your journey and travel to the next destination.

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I think you're creating a problem where none exists, your friends wish you would stay because they like you not because they are targeting you with their projections, don't worry about it, thank them for all the love and continue living your life

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I dont know you so this may not apply. Usually, when I have a repetitive interaction or experience w/ multiple people,  I usually find it a good idea to start looking inward to see if I am the root cause. It could be the people you're choosing to surround yourself with. Again, that's my own experience.

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If you are "staying with friends" .... they are probably worried about you and want you to establish some stability. It's also FUN to have guests (the right kind) bc it's a return to when we spent a lot more time with our friends. As for the rest... people who are unhappy typically do NOT seek the presence of others 24/7. Might want to revisit your understanding of what happiness CAN be. Lots of people enjoy 9-5 jobs bc they value stability and leaving their work at the door. You're projecting the exact flipside of what you think they are projecting on you. Life isn't one-size-fits-all ... and it's great if you are 100% happy with your choices, but don't assume that others envy you for them and are unhappy if theirs are different. It's a baby nomad trope to think you're free and they're shackled.

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I like the assumption. they are frustrated of their life and that's why they ask you to stay in order to "stop" your happiness. AhahahCome on.Live easy man. You are not the centre of the world. They are just happy to spend time with you, but their life does not depend by yours. We are not the centre of the world of other people.

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