Long term DNs I need your adviceHow do you deal with balancing the feeling of home obligations and traveling?I’ve been traveling for about 15 months and am obsessed / addicted to this lifestyle ha.One of my close friends is getting married and wants me to be involved with the bachelorette party and wedding but what it would cost to be involved in the wedding activities is what I would spend in multiple months. I’m from the states and currently traveling in Mexico, so physically I could be there, but financially it’s not really feasible if I want to be able to travel like I do. I have talked to her about my financial stuff and she’s fine with me not being there, but I just feel guilty because I want to be able to live both lives. I know the obvious of working/making more - which I can do, but I feel like this won’t be the first time this problem comes along. And honestly, even if I am making more, I’d rather not spend it on expensive accommodation and meals because in my opinion, this is just a waste. Any advice on how to balance this like very specific problem?

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Long term DNs I need your adviceHow do you deal with balancing the feeling of home obligations and traveling?I’ve been traveling for about 15 months and am obsessed / addicted to this lifestyle ha.One of my close friends is getting married and wants me to be involved with the bachelorette party and wedding but what it would cost to be involved in the wedding activities is what I would spend in multiple months. I’m from the states and currently traveling in Mexico, so physically I could be there, but financially it’s not really feasible if I want to be able to travel like I do.  I have talked to her about my financial stuff and she’s fine with me not being there, but I just feel guilty because I want to be able to live both lives. I know the obvious of working/making more - which I can do, but I feel like this won’t be the first time this problem comes along. And honestly, even if I am making more, I’d rather not spend it on expensive accommodation and meals because in my opinion, this is just a waste. Any advice on how to balance this like very specific problem?

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You love your friend and want to keep her as one, go to the wedding.  You don't care about her, don't go to the wedding.  Since when living as a nomad is an excuse to skip on nurturing friends and family?  Keep a budget that includes unforseen expenses.  That being an emergency or a dear friends wedding.

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Weddings only happen once. You might not be a nomad forever but ideally you want to be in this person's life forever. Cherish the milestone events. I would come home for the important stuff and make a trip out of it as you would anything else.

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It's sounds like you know very well what you want. And the guilt is just coming from how other people may feel about the choices you want to make. Let me tell ya, girl, I wasted a lot of opportunities because I was people-pleasing and trying to make everyone else happy. After all of it, I look back and realize I was only so confused about what I wanted because I was too worried about what others would think of me. Nobody wins if you are not happy. You gotta do you.

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Do you want to go to your friend's wedding? Then go and pay the money.Do you like to live nomadically? If yes, don't go to the wedding.Yours truly,A stranger who knows nothing about you

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If you want to be there for the wedding, be there. But maybe scale back your investment to just attend and only be there a day or two.

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